NO BULLY ZONE!
What is bullying?
Bullying is when someone or a group of people are mean to others (bullying is the use of force or threat to intimidate or abuse others.) Bullying is a display of repeated, negative behavior towards someone. Other words for bullying include ‘teasing’ and ‘being picked on.’ People may be bullied because of their disability, race, age or sexual orientation. In schools or colleges, people may be bullied because of their intelligence levels or because they may be socially awkward. Unfortunately, the main target for bullies is anyone who is slightly different.
Different types of bullying:
- Physical – kicking, hitting, punching
- Verbal – teasing, nasty comments, name-calling
- Emotional – spreading rumours, excluding people, gossiping
- Cyberbullying – nasty texts or emails, nasty messages on social media, trolling
- Sexual – crude comments, uninvited touching, sexting
- Racist, Homophobic, Disablist – offensive gestures, mean comments, exclusion
How does bullying make people feel?
During secondary school, despite all of my anxieties and insecurities, I managed to find three people who I thought would support and understand me. The fact that I made three friends was a major breakthrough. However, the friends I’d made turned against me during year 9, when I was going through a difficult phase and needed them most. They excluded me from activities, meaning that I spent every break and lunch time either arguing with them or spending time alone. They would often talk about me behind my back and whenever I questioned what was said, apparently, I would get upset and offended so they never told me. They would sometimes say mean things about my other friends and asked others why they would want to befriend me. The manipulative, spiteful and vindictive threesome left me feeling isolated, depressed and worthless. My confidence was shattered, which led to my grades lowering, my mental health deteriorating and my attendance worsening. Eventually, I had to be withdrawn from mainstream school. This was the icing on the cake!
I was awarded a certificate for being an Anti-Bullying Champion in North Somerset. I read out one of my poems called ‘Bullies’ at a local primary school. I have used my experience of bullying in a positive way by spreading awareness of how it can affect someone with autism.
A video created by a 14 year old who has autism. The video aims to give people an insight into the extent of bullying.
How can you tell the difference between a FRIEND and a DNEIRF?
Sometimes, it can be hard to tell a true friend from a fake friend (DNEIRF) The list below shows the difference between the two:
- Is nice to you all of the time
- Enjoys spending time with you
- Is happy for you to spend time with others
- Pays you compliments and makes you feel good about yourself
- Shares good memories
- Is nice to you sometimes or nice to you but mean behind your back
- Uses you and only spends time with you when they want
- Gets jealous, either only wants you to themselves or turns others against you
- Says mean things and/or embarrasses you in front of others, lowers your self-esteem
- Excludes you from social activities
What to do if you're being bullied:
- Remember, it’s not your fault!
- Remember, the bullies are the ones that are in the wrong!
- Remember, you’re perfect just the way you are and don’t need to change!
- Know that you’re not alone – there’s support out there!
- Speak up! Tell someone you trust!